A survey, detailed in the August issue of the journal Archives of Sexual Behavior, reveals what motivates a person to have sex. In all, the researchers found 237 reasons. Here are the top 50, first for women and then for men.
Top 50 reasons WOMEN have sex:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
5. I wanted to express my love for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. It’s fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was "in the heat of the moment."
11. I wanted to please my partner.
12. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
13. I wanted the pure pleasure.
14. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
17. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
18. It was a romantic setting.
19. The person really desired me.
20. The person made me feel sexy.
21. The person caressed me.
22. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
23. I wanted to become one with another person.
24. It just happened.
25. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex.
26. I wanted the experience.
27. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
28. The person had an attractive face.
29. The person was a good kisser.
30. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
31. My hormones were out of control.
32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
33. I wanted to feel loved.
34. The person had a desirable body.
35. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
36. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
37. I was curious about sex.
38. It was a special occasion.
39. The person was intelligent.
40. I wanted to say "I’ve missed you."
41. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
42. I got "carried away."
43. The opportunity presented itself.
44. The person had a great sense of humor.
45. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
46. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
47. The person seemed self-confident.
48. I wanted to make up after a fight.
49. I was drunk.
50. I was turned on by the sexual conversation.
Top 50 reasons MEN have sex:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience the physical pleasure.
4. It’s fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was "horny."
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.
11. The person’s physical appearance turned me on.
12. I wanted the pure pleasure.
13. I was "in the heat of the moment."
14. I desired emotional closeness (i.e., intimacy).
15. It’s exciting, adventurous.
16. The person had a desirable body.
17. I realized I was in love.
18. The person had an attractive face.
19. The person really desired me.
20. I wanted the adventure/excitement.
21. I wanted to feel connected to the person.
22. I wanted the experience.
23. It was a romantic setting.
24. The person caressed me.
25. The person made me feel sexy.
26. It seemed like the natural next step in my relationship.
27. I wanted to increase the emotional bond by having sex
28. I wanted to keep my partner satisfied.
29. The opportunity presented itself.
30. It just happened.
31. I wanted to intensify my relationship.
32. I wanted to try out new sexual techniques or positions.
33. My hormones were out of control.
34. The person was too "hot" (sexy) to resist.
35. I was curious about my sexual abilities.
36. I wanted to improve my sexual skills.
37. I wanted to become one with another person.
38. I saw the person naked and could not resist.
39. The person was a good kisser.
40. I wanted to feel loved.
41. I wanted to celebrate a birthday or anniversary or special occasion.
42. The person was too physically attractive to resist.
43. It was a special occasion.
44. I hadn’t had sex for a while.
45. The person had beautiful eyes.
46. I wanted to communicate at a "deeper" level.
47. I wanted to experiment with new experiences.
48. The person was intelligent.
49. I wanted to keep my partner happy.
50. I was curious about what the person was like in bed.
